WHO'S RANTING.
Sunday, October 21, 2007!
RANTED on; 12:39 PM
i seriously think there is a lack of communication in my family. Our words come out differently from how we express care for one another. My parents love to jump to conclusions because they read signals wrongly. Me and my bro, we just shut up. Take for example last night, i was watching tv in the living room and my parents were at the dining table behind the sofa. My dad asked my mum,"south africa is at the same latitude as australia right?"and my mum answered," ya its the same as south america."and i was thinking,"what? y the hell did she bring up south america for?"dad:"i'm not asking about south america, i'm asking about south africa!"mum:"ya la i'm telling you its the same as ..."dad:" i never as you about south america, i want to know about south AFRICA!"mum in a super flared up voice," i'm just telling you south africa is at the same level as south america! which is the same as australia as well!"dad:"i never asked you about south america!"obviously, communication problems. and probably listening one too. they flare up at the slightest of things sheesh. but of course, they still love each other very much. sometimes i think its my mum's problem. i know she means well and care a lot for the family. the amount of things she does for this family everyday is proof of that and i appreciate it a lot. but when it comes to communicating, she doesn't listen. she concludes before u can tell her the whole story, she doesn't get what u're trying to tell her and even when she does and want to comment on it, she says the opposite things of what she really wants to say. so she goes round the bush, which irritates me. my dad provides a lot of financial stability in this house and i know i wouldn't live such a comfortable life now if it weren't for him. he's smart, thrifty and super duper practical and money minded. sometimes i think he loves money too much for his own good. if it weren't for my mother, i swear he would have made alot of enemies and lost many friends. when singapore was in an economy boom in the 1990s, my father was making quite a bit of money and spent most of the time at work, always going overseas to work twice a month. i think because of that, he has gotten use to just working in the workplace that he forgets that there is also work to be done at home now. he works from home now but he doesn't do much for the family! sometimes i just feel he thinks only of himself which was very evident when we moved house earlier this year. he's just lazy when it comes to family. there's more to contributing money to this family and he doesn't know that. maybe that's why both my mum and dad can get along so well. they are proofs of the phrase "opposites attract". my mum is impatient but my dad is patient. my dad thinks of himself but my mum thinks of everybody else. my mum doesn't listen but my dad does. total opposites. me and my bro? we sit quietly in our rooms or my bro will come over and bug me with his incessant chatting. we were taught never to retort our parents since young and we will never have the guts to do it because if we ever did, our parents will just scream at us. there is unfairness in this household and my parents don't know that.
